I had the privilege of meeting Tim a little over a year ago when I first started attending a new church, Faith Outreach. I had no idea he was an author until he and my dad started talking. From there, well, he and I have had our fair share of writing discussions. He’s given me invaluable advice, and it’s also very nice to have a fellow author to talk to about writing. They seem to understand why you’re being driven nuts! So, when I asked Tim to join me on the blog today, I was so happy he agreed to it! (Make sure to read through to the end for giveaway details!)
Can you tell us about yourself?
I have been married for 25 years and have three children. I am retired from the U.S. Navy, where I served aboard submarines. I have a master’s degree in human relations and a doctorate in Christian counseling. My passion is finding a better way to do things and then writing about it.
What is “Be Bold Now” about?
BBN is a succint and easy to remember design for interpersonal communications. I believe the design is contained in the book is the cure for any communication problem.
Personally I was always a decent orator but not a good communicator when it came to uncomfortable situations. As I became a stronger communicator I began to notice that problem relationships tended to have a foundation of poor communication. It became apparent to me that relationship problems could not be corrected until the dysfunctional communication was altered.
How did getting a Ph.D. in Christian Counseling and a Master’s in Human Relations help with the writing of “Be Bold Now?”
First and foremost it taught me the value of research and thinking outside the box. And certainly the knowledged attained and the practical experience contributed to the undertaking of writing such a book.
Did you set out to write self-help books or did the idea just come to you? Do you ever think you’ll dabble in fiction later on?
I have always been an avid reader. I read fiction from an early age starting with the “Hardy Boys.” About 15 years ago I picked up my first self-help type book. I enjoyed reading them and continue to do so. However, I just felt there was too much fluff and and “fiction” in the non-fiction. I wanted to try and write something more succint and practical…something that could really change lives. As far as your question about writing fiction; at this point I don’t believe I have that skill set. I would like to try some day though.
When did you decide you wanted to be a writer?
When I first joined the Navy I took an English comp class. I wrote an analysis of one of Shakespeare’s sonnets and the professor told me that I should become a writer. A few years ago I came across the note he had written me and suddenly the passion was there.
Not only are you a writer, you are a speaker. Do you think the two are interconnected at times for you?
Most definitely for me. Self-help and speaking seem to go hand-in-hand.
Will you share a paragraph or two from “Be Bold Now” with us?
Communication requires not the delivery, but the exchange
of a message. It involves not only someone to receive the message
but to receive the message you are sending. The message can
be perplexed by the sender or receiver, thus the importance of
communication strategies that increase the likelihood of success.
Communication requires information to be sent and received.
Most of us believe we are at least sufficient communicators. In
reality, most of us are deeply lacking in communication skills
and a great number of us are very dysfunctional communicators.
It’s not just a matter of what we say, but how we say it. It’s not
just a matter of what we hear, but how we hear it.
We are defensive and practice communication
as if it were a game we must win. Communication is vital to
healthy relationships, yet we spend very little time focusing on or
training ourselves to communicate effectively. Complicating the
problem is the fact that most of us communicate not only from a
defensive posture but also from an apprehensive attitude. We are afraid of confrontation. We are afraid of hurting someone’s feelings
or being ridiculed. To correct these problems, communication
must become bold. Boldness requires confidence and forthrightness
tempered by grace. This not only applies to our speech
but to our listening. Being confident in spirit and demeanor is
conducive to and essential for listening for understanding without
defensiveness. Boldness is not arrogant and demanding.
Now, for some fun!
Do you prefer chocolate or vanilla?
Vanilla with a touch of chocolate mixed in
Hardback, paperback, or ebook format?
This is the one area that I have not boarded the technology bus in. I still prefer holding a a hardback while I am reading. Paperback will suffice also. I just like to mark passages and write notes in the pages.
Would you rather fight zombies or vampires in a post-apocalyptic world?
Definitely vampires…would rather have one bite than be torn to shreds.
And now, for the fun part!! Tim has generously offered up THREE paperback copies of his book, Be Bold Now!! All you have to do is leave a comment telling me how you plan to be more bold in the 2012, leave your email so I can get in touch with you, and a subscription or two won’t hurt anyone’s chances of winning. ;) Seriously though, if you subscribe, leave me your wordpress name and/or email so I will know you have. Your name will go into the drawing twice. I will randomly pick three winners Friday and contact you. If you don’t respond within a week, I will then forfeit your name and pick a new winner.