What a pig! Her response was fab, and I strongly suggest you read it. Again, that article can be found here.
This woman is absolutely stunning and brave, and I applaud her for being so open with her message about this.
But you wanna hear something funny? I’ve been on the same end of this.
A few years ago, around 7 or 8 I think, I met this guy (who didn’t have a picture on his dating profile, might I add) online. He was smart, witty, and I thought a decent guy as we talked and got to know one another.
Well, we met up at my church and went to church together. He wasn’t at all what I expected. (My brother-in-law calls him “shark teeth” if that means anything to you.) I wasn’t attracted to him, and I didn’t see it going further than one meeting anyway. But what got me was when we had lunch after church.
We went to Subway, which was about the only decent place to get some food in the small town where my church at the time was, and the dude all but forced me to get a veggie sub, which I hate. I hated every vegetable on that sub sandwich. Yet, I ate it because I felt like I had to impress him. He wanted me to give it a try, so I did. I was an idiot. I shouldn’t have let him make me feel this way.
Anyway, we go back to my church to sit around and talk. You know, to get to know each other better. Well, in that discussion, he told me that if I didn’t lose weight, he wouldn’t date me. I kid you not, he honestly told me that. At the time, I was trying to lose weight, but I posed the question that if I wasn’t, would he still want to date me. He told me that he wouldn’t because he didn’t want to date a fat girl. I told him goodbye and never saw or spoke with him again.
I spent that entire night crying. I let some jerk of a man make me feel like less of a woman because I was overweight. I regret that night. I regret not yelling at him. I regret the tears. I regret letting him have some bearing on my feelings.
See, I wasn’t where I am now in my life. I promise you that if a guy ever said something like that me now, he would get it. I would hold nothing back. Honestly. No one should ever make me or you or anyone feel like less of a person.
Of course there are people out there who are jerks and do it regardless, but we can do something about it. We can build up ourselves to where something like this wouldn’t bother us as much. At least that’s my hope. I’m happy with myself. I’m happy where I am.
No guy (or girl) should ever make us feel worthless because we don’t “turn them on”.
I love what this woman said best in her response the Tinder man.
I want you to encourage your daughter to love, enjoy, and care for her body. It belongs to her and only her. Praise her intellect, and her creativity. Push her to push herself and to be fearless. Give her the tools to develop a bomb-proof sense of self-esteem so that if (I’ll be kind, I’ll say “if”) the time comes that a small, unhappy man attempts to corrode it, she can respond as I do now.
We have to be able to get our self-esteem up, to know that no matter what some jerk says, we’re still beautiful creatures. Fat, small, or average, you’re a hottie, and it’s time we started learning that about ourselves.
#loveyourself because it’s what we should do. And for the record, it’s not easy. It’s the hardest thing you’ll do, but it’s totally worth it! YOU ARE WORTH IT!