#Author vs. #Writer

“I used Grammarly to grammar check this post, because well, as you’ll see proofing my own work can be stressful.”

(It’s very useful too!)


How long has it been since I actually wrote up a post about writing?  I honestly don’t remember the last time!  Wow.

How have you guys been?  Missed me much?  Probably not.  But oh well.  I’m back, baby.  For now at least.

I’ve been BUSY!  If you’ve been following my blog tour, you’ll know that.  I’ve been doing my best to keep my head above water and not get too stressed.  But, that hasn’t happened.  I have been so stressed these past few weeks it felt like I couldn’t breathe.  It got in the way of my writing, and I am most certainly not happy about that.

I was on a roll, writing somewhere between 2-3000 words a day (not significant but good for me), and then bam – 200 words in three days.  I, mean, words are after all words, but I don’t like what stress does to me.

First of all, I’m a stress eater, and I hate that about myself.  Secondly, it definitely isn’t good on my health as I mentioned earlier, and thirdly, it gets in the way of my writing!

If you haven’t heard, I’m in the process or looking for agents.  It sucks.  Rejections come, and then no answers sometimes.  Nothing’s come of it so far, but daggum, I won’t give up!

Ok, sorry, back to writing and stress.  It’s weird that writing isn’t what’s causing me stress.  Usually I’m stressed out by where my novels are going or if they’re good enough.  Blah blah blah.  But it’s quite the opposite, being an author is stressing me more than being a writer.

There’s a difference?  A HUGE difference!  Keeping up appearances, social media-ing, coming up with witty tweets, being available for emails, Facebook messages, etc, it’s so time consuming and frustrating!  Don’t get me wrong.  I do love it, but sometimes, I guess that being an author can overcome being the writer.

Despite everything we have going on, we need to sit back and say, “I’m a writer first.”  I don’t know.  Maybe I’m being too ambitious, but all of my stress has really gotten in the way of my writing, and I think sometimes we need to reevaluate what’s important to us.

Sorry, I’m not usually the philosophical type, but sometimes, we have to do what best benefits our health and well-being and do what is important to us.  Because writing is very important to me.  It honestly is a release for my racing mind, but I’ve been focused on it being my “job” and not my “dream.”  When that happens, I start stressing out, and as I mentioned, that’s definitely not good for me, us.

Just take some time to write.  Not because you feel like you need to but because it’s what you want to do.  I think that’s what’s important.

How about you?


**On a side note, I’ve been considering proofreading authors’ novels.  Maybe I don’t need to add that stress to me, but I really like grammar.  Thoughts?**


Good grief… will I ever get a break?!

(Well, I got on the internet to look up a recipe for supper and here I am…. writing a blog post.)

So, as you may or may not know, I struggled with not taking on too much as I wrote in my post a few weeks back, and I had vowed to do better this year and not stress myself out.  Well, I lied to all you lovely folks, and some things have come up and I just couldn’t say no to help others.

Why do I keep doing this to myself?  The answer: I love helping people.

I can’t help it.  I always want to find a way to give back and help, even it means stressing myself out to the max.  Apparently, I’m a glutton for punishment.

But, now that I’ve caught up, I’m probably going to do better.  (I guess I can’t make that a promise or resolution this time around.)

I have learned some helpful tips to keep me from getting too overwhelmed though.  Here they are.

  1. Learn to say no.  Seriously.  This isn’t a joke.  Learn how to say no.  It’s okay if we can’t help everyone who needs it.  You can’t very well help someone if you’re completely stressed and useless to them anyway.  And usually, it will end up with you having to back down and embarrass yourself by having to step away as it is.  So, as difficult as it may be, learn how to say no.
  2. Make a list of things you hope to achieve each day.  Don’t make it a large list of unattainable goals.  Start with four or five small goals you wish to achieve.  Once you achieve them, cross them off.  But don’t fret if you don’t do it on that day.  It’s not the end of the world if you have to move one goal to the next day.  I promise you, you will survive.  It took me a while to realize that.  The world doesn’t end just because one email wasn’t answered.
  3. Breathe.  It may seem insignificant.  Okay – well, not really, we have to breathe to live.  What I mean is take a minute to calm yourself when you get overwhelmed.  Set your computer aside, go for a walk or jog.  Brew a cup of coffee or drink some tea.  Read a chapter of a book that isn’t for review or a beta read novel, one that is simply for the fun of reading.  Watch TV or a movie.  Just step away from everything that is “attacking” you and piling up in front of you.
  4. Be happy.  It’s not a sin.  This industry can get so tough to deal with.  You’ll get tossed around, ran over, and spit up, but if you’re where you’re at, writing and such, you want to be here.  Don’t forget that.  You chose this for a reason.  Most people don’t just get up and say – “I’ll write just because I want to.”  You’ve probably had a passion for it for a while.  Because, I know it isn’t for the money.  Just kidding!  But seriously, be happy.  Don’t worry.  (And yes, I did that intentionally.  Because that song is not stuck in my head.)

So, I know these aren’t revelations to make you throw your old habits aside and bow and worship at my feet for bringing such thoughts to the blog.  These are just what I’ve learned to help myself de-stress.  What have you learned?

Keep Calm and Read a Book