New Year, New You?

Happy New Year, guys! I hope you’ve had a wonderful holiday season. I’ve been on a mini-hiatus from most of my social media sites. Actually, it’s been rather nice not being attached to my phone or laptop. Honestly, this is the most I’ve used my laptop in a while. 😉

Anyway, with it being the new year, resolutions are sure to be made. Normally, I have a long list of things I want to accomplish and change, etc etc, and although I do have a list, it’s more of a wish list-no, a prayer list. There are things I want to pray about and see where God leads. It’s things that I want in my life. And yes, one of those things is weight loss.

I’ve been advocating loving yourself as you are, and I won’t back down on that. I think that even though we love ourselves for what size we are and all, there is room for change if that’s what you want. I want to emphasize that last bit. I want you to know that you shouldn’t feel like you have to change. This has to be something that you want to do.

And, I want to do this. It’s not about the weight though. I’ve embraced myself and who I am. I love myself, and as conceited as that sounds, it’s true. I’ve learned to love myself for me. I don’t feel like I have to change. I want to change.

There will be people who disagree with me. That’s okay. I’m not doing this for them. I’m doing this for me. I want to feel better in my own skin. It honestly is about health for me. And, if I don’t succeed this year, that’s fine too. It’s not my main goal. Truly. I have more goals. More things that I want to achieve, but I also want to be healthier. Again, I want to emphasize that it’s not about my size and weight. It’s about me.

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I don’t know if you guys saw this or not, but before Christmas, I was on one of my author friend’s blog, Stacy Eaton. I was discussing the fact that we shouldn’t let our weight and how we perceive ourselves get in the way of getting in photos with our families and friends and making memories! We shouldn’t be afraid of how we look. We shouldn’t loathe ourselves. We should love ourselves, even if we think we’re a work in progress!

So, this year, is one of your “resolutions” to be a newer version of yourself? Or are you going to be the same ole you but with goals that might change your outer appearance?

Don’t think about this as becoming a new you. Don’t do it! You’re perfect. You’re beautiful. You’re awesome. But you’re also entitled to change.

#loveyourself and #youarebeautiful mean so much more than staying the same. It’s about embracing yourself as you are but also seeing your value enough to change if that’s what you want to do. The main thing is this, you’re awesome whether you want to change or whether you don’t. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. 🙂

I know this post may seem like a contradiction in itself, but honestly, I don’t think it is. See, my opinion about myself isn’t fleeting. Sure, I have my days and I’m not perfect, but there’s one thing that I’ve learned. I’m beautiful. God created me this way for a reason, but it’s okay to want to be healthier. And that’s what I want. I need to drink more water and cut back on my sodas and sweets. I have vices just like everyone else, and I’m going to try and fix those vices. That being said, if I can’t keep up with this “resolution”, I won’t hate myself. I’ll just keep trying and continue to be me.

I don’t see this as a new me project. I see this as an improvement on my already awesome self. 😉 So, please. Continue to love yourself and work on that. Don’t think you have to change. But if it’s something you want to do, don’t think that you can’t do it because it will make you seem like you don’t love yourself. It’s quite the opposite. You love yourself enough to make minor improvements. Again, I’m not trying to contradict myself. I really do want you guys to understand that loving yourself is the most important thing, but it is okay to make changes. We aren’t expected to stay the same. Humans change. We grow. This could be part of that growth.

So, new year, new you? Or new year, same you (with minor improvements)?

P.S. To read my last blog post titled the same (which I’d forgotten about), you can read it here. It’s from 2015. 🙂

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Hello. My Name Is…

First, let me preface this by apologizing for taking so long to write up a new blog post. My life has been one crazy ride after another, but all in a good way. I want to give you a few updates before going into what this post is about.

In the middle of September, I was asked to be one of the youth leaders at my church, which I accepted. Because, well, if you know me and my writing, you’ll know that I want to help make a difference in people’s lives, especially teens. I’ve felt a calling to work with teens in some way, and I know this was all God. Right now, though, my co-youth leader and I are only teaching a handful of teens, but I’m excited about the possibilities. We have room for growth, and I’m praying that it does just that.

Just last week, my 3rd nephew in the line of 6 nieces and nephews was born. He’s healthy and beautiful, and my heart is full. ❤

Also, I’ve been working on The Marked, which is coming along well. I just finished line edits. I’m not sure if this was mentioned on my blog, but Clean Reads has picked up that book, and I’m super thrilled to be working with them!

I’ve also been writing my next book The Healer. It’s been a difficult book to write, but that’s because the subject matter is so much unlike anything I’ve ever written. And I have to get the dates and backstory right or it won’t work. So I’ve been editing while writing, and it’s making the process slower.

Okay, now, on to what this post is about.

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When I taught the first class to the small group of teens, I asked them this. What all have you been called? I wanted them to tell me negative identifiers that others, and themselves, had said about them.

We got the typical answers: fat, dumb, too tall, too short, too skinny.

Just like in my Entertaining Angels series, I turned it around and showed them what God said about them.

You’re beautiful. You’re perfect. You’re smart. You’re God’s. You’re loved.

Too often, we let the lies of the world, our peers, satan tell us who we are when we should be listening to what the Word is saying about us. What others say doesn’t define us. They shouldn’t at least, but we let them. We take these words and let them sink in until they become part of us, and that is when we start believing it about ourselves.

Proverbs 23:7 says, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he…”

What do you believe about yourself? Do you believe the lies? Have you given in to them? I have, and it’s something I regret. I don’t want that for any of you. I want you to know that you are beautiful, loved, and worthy.

God has a purpose for you, and you wouldn’t be here if there wasn’t some purpose for it. We can’t let the lies of satan and the world keep us from living up to our full potential.

You are loved! You are blessed! You are a Child of God! That is all that you should think, so when these lies come at you, knock them down and remind yourself who you are!

Here are some reminders!

1.) You were fearfully and wonderfully made! Psalm 139:13-14

Before we were born, God created us wonderfully. You’re wonderful! If God didn’t want you her, He wouldn’t have create you, but He wants you and He loves you!

Also see Jeremiah 1:5.

2.) You are loved! John 3:16

As we just said, God knew you before you were born. He created you wonderfully, and He loves you. In fact, He loves you so much that He sent His Son to earth as a human where His purpose was to die for you. Is there anyone you would die for? That–and more–is how much your Savior loves you.

3.) You’re an heir!

Romans 8:15-17; Galatians 3:13,14, 29

When you receive the Spiriat and are saved, you become God’s child. If you’re God’s child, then you are an heir! Whatever is God’s becomes yours including His authority and His riches! You are a princess (or prince) now! And just like your earthly parents (or someone who loves you like a parent), God wants to give you everything He has!

4.) You are worthy!

Luke 15:18-24

No matter how worthless you feel, how many mistakes you might have made, you are worthy. Just like the prodigal son, no matter what you’ve done, God will still welcome you back. You don’t have to be a servant because you will always be an heir, and God will always love you!

5.) You are precious and honored! Isaiah 43:4

Although God is talking about Israelites, once we are saved, we get those same promises that were promised to them. Once we become heirs with God, we become like the Israelites, and God has said that we’re precious and honored! That is evident by the love He has and continues to show us.

I just don’t want y’all to forget who you are. You’re an amazing human being and deserve to know that about yourself!

#youarebeautiful