Hello. My Name Is…

First, let me preface this by apologizing for taking so long to write up a new blog post. My life has been one crazy ride after another, but all in a good way. I want to give you a few updates before going into what this post is about.

In the middle of September, I was asked to be one of the youth leaders at my church, which I accepted. Because, well, if you know me and my writing, you’ll know that I want to help make a difference in people’s lives, especially teens. I’ve felt a calling to work with teens in some way, and I know this was all God. Right now, though, my co-youth leader and I are only teaching a handful of teens, but I’m excited about the possibilities. We have room for growth, and I’m praying that it does just that.

Just last week, my 3rd nephew in the line of 6 nieces and nephews was born. He’s healthy and beautiful, and my heart is full.❤

Also, I’ve been working on The Marked, which is coming along well. I just finished line edits. I’m not sure if this was mentioned on my blog, but Clean Reads has picked up that book, and I’m super thrilled to be working with them!

I’ve also been writing my next book The Healer. It’s been a difficult book to write, but that’s because the subject matter is so much unlike anything I’ve ever written. And I have to get the dates and backstory right or it won’t work. So I’ve been editing while writing, and it’s making the process slower.

Okay, now, on to what this post is about.


When I taught the first class to the small group of teens, I asked them this. What all have you been called? I wanted them to tell me negative identifiers that others, and themselves, had said about them.

We got the typical answers: fat, dumb, too tall, too short, too skinny.

Just like in my Entertaining Angels series, I turned it around and showed them what God said about them.

You’re beautiful. You’re perfect. You’re smart. You’re God’s. You’re loved.

Too often, we let the lies of the world, our peers, satan tell us who we are when we should be listening to what the Word is saying about us. What others say doesn’t define us. They shouldn’t at least, but we let them. We take these words and let them sink in until they become part of us, and that is when we start believing it about ourselves.

Proverbs 23:7 says, “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he…”

What do you believe about yourself? Do you believe the lies? Have you given in to them? I have, and it’s something I regret. I don’t want that for any of you. I want you to know that you are beautiful, loved, and worthy.

God has a purpose for you, and you wouldn’t be here if there wasn’t some purpose for it. We can’t let the lies of satan and the world keep us from living up to our full potential.

You are loved! You are blessed! You are a Child of God! That is all that you should think, so when these lies come at you, knock them down and remind yourself who you are!

Here are some reminders!

1.) You were fearfully and wonderfully made! Psalm 139:13-14

Before we were born, God created us wonderfully. You’re wonderful! If God didn’t want you her, He wouldn’t have create you, but He wants you and He loves you!

Also see Jeremiah 1:5.

2.) You are loved! John 3:16

As we just said, God knew you before you were born. He created you wonderfully, and He loves you. In fact, He loves you so much that He sent His Son to earth as a human where His purpose was to die for you. Is there anyone you would die for? That–and more–is how much your Savior loves you.

3.) You’re an heir!

Romans 8:15-17; Galatians 3:13,14, 29

When you receive the Spiriat and are saved, you become God’s child. If you’re God’s child, then you are an heir! Whatever is God’s becomes yours including His authority and His riches! You are a princess (or prince) now! And just like your earthly parents (or someone who loves you like a parent), God wants to give you everything He has!

4.) You are worthy!

Luke 15:18-24

No matter how worthless you feel, how many mistakes you might have made, you are worthy. Just like the prodigal son, no matter what you’ve done, God will still welcome you back. You don’t have to be a servant because you will always be an heir, and God will always love you!

5.) You are precious and honored! Isaiah 43:4

Although God is talking about Israelites, once we are saved, we get those same promises that were promised to them. Once we become heirs with God, we become like the Israelites, and God has said that we’re precious and honored! That is evident by the love He has and continues to show us.

I just don’t want y’all to forget who you are. You’re an amazing human being and deserve to know that about yourself!


Why I’ve chosen to remain single.

I’m 29. I’m not scared of my age. I do a lot of joking around about how I refuse to get to 30, but the fact remains, my age (and my singleness) is just fine by me.

People assume I’m the younger of my sister and me, but I’m the oldest. People assume wrong because I’m single and childless. People assume that because I’m nearing 30 (quickly) I should be married and have children, or at the very least that I should be thinking about finding a husband and having a few children. But that’s not what I want. I want to remain single at this point in my life.

My previous relationships have been disastrous. Why? Because I put finding a man in my own hands instead of God’s hands.

I’ve learned over the years that God knows much more than I do, and it’s always much much better if I let Him take the wheel in my dating life. Well, in every area of my life, but that’s a post for another time.

So, after my last failed relationship over two years ago, I prayed and I told God that I wouldn’t date until He told me to. I haven’t looked for a man, and I haven’t been on a date. Yes, I’m nearly 30, and I refuse to date. I decided that it would be best if I focused on my relationship with God, and then I would focus on a relationship with a man who God saw fit to bring into my life. Because God’s plans are always for the better. He knows what He’s doing.

Do I want to get married? Yes, eventually. Do I want kids? Probably. But I don’t want to force anything and it be outside of the will of God. I think sometimes we forget that we need to seek God when it comes to things like this. I had never thought to let God direct my dating life. Why? Because I was selfish and wanted to do things on my own, and look how that turned out: failed relationships and regrets. Plus, during these relationships, I didn’t put as much focus on my relationship with God. And that was on me. I got so wrapped up in these guys, that I didn’t want to see what was in front of me: how wrong we were for one another and how little I was focusing on God.

I remain single because I am working on my relationship with God, putting my focus on Him, and believing that when the time comes, He will put my future husband and me in the same place, and say, “Emmie, that’s him. That’s your guy.”

Maybe I’m crazy. Maybe I’m not. I just choose to believe that I’m doing what’s right for me. And for me, I feel like waiting and focusing on God. There’s a meme that has been going around, and I always see it when I need it most i.e. when I’m feeling lonely.


So that’s my plan. It may not be the right plan for you, but it’s the right one for me. Honestly, I always tell people who are lonely and want to be in a relationship this. I feel like it’s probably the best way to deal with the loneliness. You have to first take care of yourself and what you need to fix in your relationship with God before you can have a romantic relationship.

I also found it helpful to find like-minded friends, people who understand what it’s like to want to get to know Christ more and then find a husband or wife. I know. It’s not easy. I don’t have but one single friend, but at least we’re both on the same page.😛 Still, if you’re single, and if you need a friend, follow me on Facebook and strike up a conversation. Or send in a prayer request.

You don’t have to do this alone. You don’t have to feel alone, and you don’t have to be alone. God loves you.

I also strongly suggest praying for your future mate. Author Zari Banks has a great resource called, Praying While You’re Waiting for Him and Praying While You’re Waiting for Her.

I read Praying While You’re Waiting for Him, and I loved it! Since high school, I’ve been a firm believer in praying for the man God wanted me to marry. Zari brought out the power behind the prayers and how important it is to pray for my future husband and my marriage BEFORE it happens to prepare him and me both for what God has in store for us.I strongly suggest every single woman (or man) reads this book. These prayers are spirit-filled and powerful!

It’s important that we first learn to establish our relationship with God if we want a God-centered relationship. You have to know where you stand in that to have a relationship with your significant other that glorifies God.

And that is why I’m still single and praying. I’ll be praying for you as well!